Despondency is a malady that plagues most of mankind. Oh, it may not be a daily happening; and when it does occur, it may not last for long. However, even the most safe, secure and well-loved among us can experience the occasional bout with depression.
Perhaps despondency or depression sets in because of fear, frustration or hurt that comes from an outside source. Perhaps someone said something hurtful to you, or a sudden loss such as a loved one, employment or tangible things such as finance. There are all sorts of reasons that can cause any one of us to be temporarily despondent.
Just recently there was a news story about a very successful pastor of a megachurch who committed suicide. He left behind his wife and two young children to grapple with the age-old questions, “Why?” Some critics would say that he was selfish and did not care about his family, but nothing could be further from the truth. The news story told of his life-long battle with depression that was caused by a chemical imbalance. Those of us who do not understand the ins and outs of such depression should never criticize those who are hurting so badly.
Through the years of pastoral ministry, I have done a considerable amount of counseling; even among those who have suffered from depression. Most would confess that they don’t understand their own emotions because they have so much to be thankful for. As one person puts it, “They are too blessed to be stressed.” But, regardless of the outward blessings there is an inward cloud of darkness that envelopes them.
I recall an incident in which David, King of Israel, faced depression. I am sure if he had been asked why he experienced such a debilitating circumstance, he would have answered, “I don’t know! I am so blessed and have more than I could ever ask for; yet, inwardly I am hurting.”
In Psalm 42:5 he cries out, asking, “Why are you cast down, O my soul? And why are you disquieted within me?” Obviously, he was looking for an answer to his despair. Was it because the weight of the kingdom rested solely on his shoulders? Or, was it because he had wandered away from God and was caught up in the sin of adultery with Bathsheba? Either way, the reason for his depression took its toll on him. What could he do?
Well, in that same verse David (perhaps with some time for thoughtful reflection) answered his own question, saying, “Hope in god, for I shall yet praise Him for the help of His countenance.”
Whenever we encounter the trials of life and they seem to get the best of us, we ask, “Who can help me? Who do I turn to? Does anyone know what I am going through, or does anyone actually care?” Well, to be certain there is always someone to care – God does! Our heavenly Father knows of our hurts, and He knows every need we have before the need ever arises. He is always ready to listen when we call on His name. Have you talked with Him lately?
- Pastor Jerry L. Dunn, Oak Street Baptist Church